What Independent Women Want And How These 18 Traits Can Help You


Every woman wants to have the ability to care for herself – either emotionally, physically, or financially. Independence is a choice and although different people would have different perceptions of whom an independent woman is or should be, your life is your own- so it’s time to take control.

Confidence is Sexy

The modern woman has a mind of her own, therefore she has more opportunities to be able to choose decisions for herself. She is strong, and confident, and has developed emotional intelligence. She is not defined by her relationships and can hold to her own standards and beliefs.

Being independent-minded doesn’t necessarily mean your opinions are different from others and that you don’t need to consult with other people; it simply means that you hold opinions because it makes sense to you. This lack of insecurity is what gives you that powerful confidence, and this confidence is what makes an independent woman really sexy.

Self-confidence is the belief that you don’t need to fit a certain mold, and that you don’t have to rely on another person or society for validation. Although you are open to suggestions and advice, you are aware that the most important help is that which you get from yourself.

18 Powerful Independent Woman Traits

1. Have Goals

Having goals is the norm for any high-value woman. These goals help keep you inspired and focused. By challenging yourself and working on what you desire you level up physically, mentally, emotionally, and financially.

2. Set High Standards

A woman who values herself knows her boundaries. She chooses who to let into her inner circle and not everybody can get in. She is selective of the people she engages with, for instance, she is drawn to people who will elevate and grow alongside her.

3. Prioritizes Herself And Her Health

Health is wealth, and a high-value woman knows that well. She makes sure to nourish her body and give it the nutrients and vitamins it needs. Physical exercise is also of utmost importance.

4. Loves To Learn

She is aware that Knowledge is power. Therefore, feeding her Intelligence is one of her best traits, and she does it regularly. An independent woman yearns to learn. She understands the importance of being educated in multiple fields as well as on current events. But most important is that she takes action and applies what she learns to her life.

5. She Is Decisive

If you are an independent thinker, you will see there are rarely any good reasons to put off making a decision— Independent thinkers assess all of the information available to them and use it to make a reasonable and quick decision.

Because you make decisions independently you understand the responsibility that comes with it. Independent thinkers are mindful of their thoughts. In other words, positive thinking is a daily practice. Only with a Healthy Mindset can one make better decisions.

6. Does Not Need Approval

Independent thinkers trust their own judgment more than others, so they rarely ask others if they approve of their decisions. They trust that they have enough information to make an educated decision, and that itself is enough.

7. She Is Curious

Independent thinkers are often naturally curious, and they don’t believe every question has been answered. Some questions are just too complex to be answered by a simple textbook explanation.


8. Manages Her Finances

Finances are an important part of life, and being financially free is of utmost importance. Therefore she is conscious of managing her money, she knows how to make money, and knows that investing and saving are an important part of her life.

9. Finances Herself

She enjoys nice things and doesn’t wait for someone to get them for her. An Independent Woman finds pride not only in her achievements but also because she knows she can afford the comfort that she needs.

You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go. ~ Dr. Seuss

10. She Is Not A Victim

People who see themselves as victims often need others to save them. Independent people however prefer to be accountable, they take responsibility for their actions. They understand that self-pity can get you down, so they avoid this way of negative. thinking.

11. Negative People Are Not Welcome

Independent Women do not let negative people bring them down–they do not need reassurance about their lives. She works hard on herself, for herself and therefore she is careful of her influences, she leaves no space for negative pessimistic people. She’s too busy getting on with life to pay much thought to negative comments – for her, this is just none of her business.

12. Comfortable In Her Own Skin.

A confident woman knows her strengths and weaknesses. She is aware of her imperfections and works hard on developing them. She constantly works on her self-love, self-care, and self-awareness which boosts her overall self-esteem and eliminates the need to be someone else to be happy.

13. Minds Her Own Business

Independent women understand that it is wrong to look down on others. They respect other people’s beliefs and know that their personal experiences and independent lifestyle helped to form their opinions and experiences. Thus, despite what she thinks and feels about the matter- she stays in her space and minds her own business.

14. End Bad Relationships

From romantic relationships to friendships, independent women end any relationship that has become toxic. They do not waste time and energy on negative actions and bad influences. It’s healthier to cut their losses and move on.

15. Never Settles For Less

A confident woman knows her worth and won’t settle for anything lesser than what she deserves.

16. Life Management

Women are masters of managing their lives and they manage their personal and professional lives with ease, keeping both separate yet equally attended.

17. She is proud of herself.

She never shies away from her achievements and is proud of them, whatever they might be.

18. Boundaries

Independent women set clear boundaries that prioritize their own needs.

In Conclusion

The most rewarding aspect of being your own woman is having a sense of purpose. You have something that is yours alone and no one else can take that away from you. 

Anyone can be independent. In fact, the more you know, and the more you do, the better you’ll survive. As Stephen Covey author of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, said “We become what we repeatedly do.” This is crucial to people who need and want to be independent.


  • Reply Mae Alexis June 14, 2021 at 3:25 pm

    Love this! Many of these come naturally to me after years of personal development. This article inspires me to never stop working to be the best and truest version of myself though. Thanks for the motivational read 🙂

    • Reply Lani June 19, 2021 at 7:59 am

      Hi Mae, I’m glad you were inspired. We’re on the same boat, I’m trying to be the best version of myself. But sometimes we still need to be reminded to be more empowered. Thanks for your comment and support, do check out my other posts.

  • Reply Ivana June 18, 2021 at 7:35 am

    Yes, ending toxic relationships is so important, love that advice! Such a good and empowering post 🙂

    • Reply Lani June 19, 2021 at 7:56 am

      Hi Ivana, I’m glad you feel empowered. Do check out some of my other posts for more inspiration.

  • Reply simplyjolayne October 10, 2022 at 11:17 am

    My husband has always been my greatest cheerleader. He always says to me, “Own it! Confidence looks good on you.”

    • Reply Lani October 11, 2022 at 6:10 am

      Hi Jolayne,

      You are one lucky woman. Indeed confidence is the most beautiful thing you can possess.

  • Reply Fransic October 13, 2022 at 11:22 am

    Great things, we definitely need women who can take care of themselves first. These spot on the traits. Thank you for sharing!

    • Reply Lani October 14, 2022 at 8:40 am

      HI Fransic,

      I totally agree with you. Women need to lead their own lives and be independent. Thanks for your comment. I’m glad you enjoyed this post.

  • Reply Areil October 13, 2022 at 2:05 pm

    This is great. Confidence is so important!

    • Reply Lani October 14, 2022 at 8:39 am

      Hi Ariel,

      Thank you for your comment. Indeed confidence is very important.

  • Reply Dana October 13, 2022 at 4:26 pm

    I would absolutely prioritize boundaries for independent women or women wanting to become more independent. As women, I think we are raised to always put other first, especially family. I really appreciate this comprehensive list as I am continuously working on myself!

    • Reply Lani October 14, 2022 at 8:38 am

      Hi Dona,

      I totally agree with you- boundaries are essential. I hope the tips listed will help you on your journey to becoming the best version of yourself. Do check out our other related posts.

  • Reply Karen | Online Blog & Business Help October 13, 2022 at 6:48 pm

    Love this list! Great traits and goals to aim for!

    • Reply Lani October 14, 2022 at 8:31 am

      Hi Karen,

      I’m glad you enjoyed this post. I hope these traits will help you become the best version of yourself!

  • Reply nia October 13, 2022 at 9:46 pm

    Thank you, this is a great list ! Starting to work on these traits has been great for my self-confidence!

    • Reply Lani October 14, 2022 at 8:28 am

      Hi Nia,

      I’m glad you enjoyed this post. I hope it helps you on your journey to be the woman you want to be!

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