How To Change Your Social Circle And Upgrade Your Life

They say that to upgrade your life, you must surround yourself with successful people. But does this mean you should bid farewell to all your unsuccessful friends?

Let’s be clear: success isn’t solely about finances. It varies from person to person, encompassing family life, career fulfillment, and personal achievements.

Many successful individuals live life on their own terms, while others settle for monotony, or abandon their dreams to chance. But do you know our social circle has some influence on that? If you’re reading this, you may have realized the value of your social circle.

As humans we naturally gravitate towards like-minded individuals or attract those who mirror our beliefs—a case of “birds of a feather flock together.” Over time, you discover that friendships and relationships play a crucial role in the choices you make and the actions you take.

Upgrade Your Life, Update Your Social Circle

Does upgrading your life require saying goodbye to your old friends?

Being physically around the right people would be ideal. Especially when those people are replacing those who:

• Have no goals, dreams, aspirations
• Uninterested in personal growth
• Negative mindset and blames everyone else
• Has Excusitis- a mental disease of making excuses 
• Unmotivated and Lazy
• Waiting for life to hand them opportunities on a silver platter

When you remove these influences from your circle you will notice an immediate change and massive impact on your mindset and life.

Your Current Social Circle

The first step in upgrading your social circle is to evaluate your current one. Ask yourself these questions:

• Do my friends encourage me to pursue my goals and dreams?
• Are they supportive of my ambitions and aspirations?
• Do they inspire me to be a better person?
• How do I feel after spending time with them? Energized or drained?

Being honest with yourself is crucial. It doesn’t mean you need to cut ties with everyone who doesn’t fit the ideal mold, It means you should be mindful of the influences in your life.

Steps to Upgrade Your Social Network

1. Identify Your Goals and Values
   Knowing what you want to achieve and the values you uphold is the foundation for finding the right people to surround yourself with. This clarity will guide you in seeking relationships that align with your aspirations. Read more: 11 Ways To Empower Your Mind: Transformative Thoughts For Lasting Change
2. Identify the People Bringing You Down
   Reflect on how you feel after spending time with certain individuals. If a friend focuses on negativity and brings you down, it may be time to move on from that relationship.
3. Determine Your Reasons
   Understanding your reasons for letting go of detrimental relationships helps you change your mindset and free yourself. It’s important to recognize that as you change, some friendships will inevitably fade.
4. Seek Out Like-Minded Individuals
   Attend events, join clubs, or participate in online communities that align with your interests and goals. Networking events, workshops, and seminars are great places to meet new, inspiring people.
5. Engage in Meaningful Conversations
   Building deeper connections requires more than just surface-level interactions. Engage in conversations that matter, share your goals, and listen to others to foster stronger relationships.
6. Be Selective
   Quality over quantity. It’s better to have a few close friends who truly support and inspire you than a large group of acquaintances who don’t add value to your life.
7. Be the Person You Want to Attract
   Reflect on the qualities you seek in others. If you want to be around motivated, positive, and successful people, strive to embody those traits yourself. Read more: From Small Life To Big Dreams: 13 Steps To Live Up To Your Full Potential
8. Set Boundaries
   You don’t have to cut off old friends completely, but setting boundaries is important. Spend less time with those who drain your energy and more time with those who uplift you.
9. Retain & Build New Connections
   Some friends might be a good inspiration and influence for you, and some might also be desperate for change. Focus on maintaining these positive relationships while also building new ones that align with your goals and values.

The Power of Surrounding Yourself with the Right People

Do friends influence your success?

Remember, the peers you surround yourself with influence who you are now and who you will become.

Actively choosing to be around people who make you happy and share your ambitions elevates your life’s standards and helps you achieve your goals.

When you prioritize personal growth, you’ll naturally attract opportunities to connect with successful individuals.

The Challenge Of Connecting With The Right People

One of the primary challenges people face in connecting with the right individuals is often due to limited existing connections.

To overcome this hurdle, expand your network through community events and seminars. By actively engaging in networking activities and joining relevant groups, this can help you bridge the gap and unlock valuable connections.

If your immediate environment lacks these opportunities, turn to the Internet. Online platforms host mentors, mastermind groups, and communities where like-minded individuals gather.

The internet is rich with resources, including abundant free information, making it easier to find and engage with people who share your goals and values, thereby expanding and enriching your social circle.

Strategies To Upgrade Your Circle Online

1. Join Social Media Groups:
   Engage in online communities and groups aligned with your goals and interests.
2. Post on a Personal Blog and Comment on Other Blogs:
   Share your perspectives and interact with successful individuals through blogging and commenting.
3. Watch Podcasts and Participate in Other Platforms:
   Listen to podcasts featuring successful individuals and engage in discussions on platforms like Clubhouse.
4. Leverage Free Advice and Content from Support Groups or Mentors:
   Many mentors and support groups offer free advice and resources. Make use of these valuable opportunities.
5. Hire a Coach or Mentor:
   Invest in personalized guidance to accelerate your growth. Explore resources like YouTube, Google, and platforms like Skillshare for free educational content.
6. Take Notes and Apply Them to Your Life:
   Capture insights and actively integrate them into your daily routines using digital tools to refine your systems.
7. Read Books and Listen to Audiobooks:
   Gain knowledge and wisdom from successful individuals through their written works and audiobooks. Get Lost In My Bestselling Bookshelf
8. Watch and Share Videos:
   Explore motivational and educational content on platforms like YouTube to learn from industry leaders.

By employing these strategies, you can proactively connect with influential individuals and incorporate their wisdom into your journey of personal and professional growth.

9 Types of People You Should Surround Yourself With

1. People Who Dream Big
   Surround yourself with individuals who have dreams, goals, and aspirations. These people strive for self-improvement, work with a clear vision, and aim for a brighter future. Read more about this in my post: 10 Surprising Reasons Why You Should Dream Bigger
2. Those Who Step Outside Their Comfort Zone
   Ambitious individuals make it a habit to feed their minds. They take classes, attend seminars and workshops, and learn from mentors. They understand that failure is the best teacher and take bold risks to push themselves out of their comfort zones.
3. Action Takers
   Many people have brilliant ideas but fail to bring them to life. It’s the action-takers—those who put their plans into motion—who succeed. Surround yourself with people who inspire you to overcome procrastination and fear. The more you practice taking action, the less power fear will have over you.
4. Problem Solvers
   Problems and obstacles are inevitable. Problem solvers focus on finding solutions, understanding that obstacles show the right direction and that failure is temporary. They learn lessons from every challenge and keep moving forward.
5. Those Who Strive to Move Forward
   Seek out individuals on the same journey as you, those with big dreams and a desire for self-development and success. Develop relationships, have meaningful conversations, discuss issues, ask for advice, and seek help when you feel stuck. Read more about this in my post: Starting Strong: 14 Golden Rules Of Goal Setting For Beginners
6. Role Models
   Surround yourself with people you admire and want to emulate. By learning from them, you can adopt a winner’s mindset, believe in yourself, and develop self-confidence, significantly impacting your life.
7. Authentic People
   Choose people who understand and support you. They may be family members, friends, colleagues, or associates—anyone who provides authentic feedback with an open mind and a balanced view. Read more about this in my post: 17 Empowering Strategies To Become Your Authentic Self
8. People with a Positive Mindset
   A positive support group is crucial. These individuals can boost your morale and keep you positive when the going gets tough. Read more about this in my post: 10 Powerful Ways To Transform Your Life Through Mindset Shift
9. People Who Raise the Bar Higher
   Stay around people who constantly raise the bar. These individuals don’t stop when one goal is achieved; they are always moving forward to the next big thing. For them, success is an ongoing journey.

the bottom line is.

You cannot change the people around you, but you certainly have the power to choose who influences your life.

By surrounding yourself with positive, motivated, and successful individuals, you can significantly influence your path to success and personal growth.

Although changing your social network may be challenging, the rewards of aligning yourself with inspiring individuals who exemplify the success you aim for are invaluable.

Embrace the journey of connecting with those who uplift and motivate you, and watch how it transforms your life for the better. Read more about this in my post: 9 Simple Ways To Authentically Become Who You Want To Be

Frequently Asked Questions:

FAQ 1: Do I have to cut off all my old friends?

Not necessarily. It’s about setting boundaries and prioritizing time with those who uplift and inspire you.

FAQ 2: Can changing my social circle make a difference?

Absolutely. The people you surround yourself with influence your mindset, motivation, and overall success.

FAQ 3: How long does it take to see the impact of a new social circle?

It varies, but many people start noticing positive changes within a few months of surrounding themselves with supportive and inspiring individuals.