Do you talk to yourself? You should — and here’s why.
Have you ever caught yourself whispering a pep talk before a big moment or mentally coaching yourself through a tough situation?
Me too — more times than I can count.
Turns out, that little voice in your head isn’t just background noise — it’s powerful.
Self-talk, or your internal dialogue, is one of the most underrated tools for personal growth. Science shows it’s a trait of higher cognitive function.
More importantly? The quality of your self-talk could shape how you see yourself, how you handle life’s curveballs, and whether or not you achieve your goals.
If you’ve been silently battling negative thoughts or struggling with low motivation, here’s your sign: it’s time to start talking to yourself differently.
In this post, you’ll discover 9 mind-blowing benefits of self-talk — plus how to harness it to elevate your mindset, manage stress, and move closer to the life you want.
Is Talking To Yourself Healthy?
Short answer: Yes.
Long answer: It depends on how you’re doing it.
Talking to yourself is completely normal — and even helpful — as long as it’s not caused by auditory hallucinations or disordered thinking (which may be signs of a mental health condition like schizophrenia).
But for most of us, self-talk is how we process thoughts, regulate emotions, and make decisions.
A study by Bangor University found that speaking out loud to oneself can enhance cognitive function, boosting focus, task performance, and emotional control.
So don’t feel weird about it. Your inner dialogue is not only natural — it’s a mental superpower just waiting to be activated.
The 3 Types of Self-Talk
Before we dive into the benefits, it’s important to understand that not all self-talk is helpful.
Here are the main types:
- Positive Self-Talk
Think: “I can do this,” “I’ve come so far,” or “I deserve happiness.”
→ Encourages growth, confidence, and resilience. - Negative Self-Talk
Think: “I’m not good enough,” “This always happens to me.”
→ Can lead to anxiety, procrastination, and low self-esteem. - Neutral Self-Talk
Think: “Next step: send the email,” or “Turn left here.”
→ More instructional, less emotional — often used to guide basic actions.
The secret to unlocking your mind’s full potential lies in becoming aware of your inner voice — and intentionally guiding it toward the positive.
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9 Mind-Blowing Benefits of Positive Self-Talk
You may be surprised how dramatically your life can change just by shifting the way you speak to yourself.
I know I was — once I started paying attention to my inner voice, everything from my mood to my motivation began to shift. Here’s what positive self-talk can do:
1. Boosts Performance and Productivity
Need to crush a deadline or prep for a big presentation?
Studies show that instructional and motivational self-talk enhances performance in both athletic and academic tasks. Talking yourself through each step keeps your brain sharp and focused.
2. Reduces Stress and Anxiety
Positive self-talk calms the nervous system.
When you replace spiraling thoughts with reassuring statements like, “I’ve handled worse,” or “I’m safe right now,” you train your brain to respond to stress with logic, not panic.
3. Increases Emotional Regulation
Struggling with intense emotions?
Your internal dialogue can help you identify, label, and manage feelings before they take control. Self-talk acts like an emotional anchor — helping you stay grounded.

4. Improves Problem-Solving Skills
Have you ever talked yourself through a tricky situation?
That’s your brain using self-directed speech to analyze options, weigh consequences, and think critically — especially under pressure.
5. Builds Self-Confidence and Self-Respect
When you speak kindly to yourself, you reinforce a belief that you are worthy, capable, and deserving.
Over time, this rewires your self-image — empowering you to show up more boldly in every area of your life.
Learn more about this: 13 Underrated Daily Habits to Kickstart Your Best Life Yet
6. Helps You Set (and Stick to) Goals
Positive self-talk is a goal-setting supercharger.
It keeps your vision front and center with affirmations like “I’m capable,” “This matters,” and “Every small step counts.” This internal cheerleading motivates consistent action.
7. Changes Your Perspective
The way you talk to yourself influences how you interpret events.
Instead of seeing a setback as failure, you start viewing it as feedback — and that shift? It’s everything.
Books on Positive Self-Talk & Mindset
- Don’t Believe Everything You Think: Why Your Thinking Is The Beginning & End Of Suffering
- Stop Overthinking: 23 Techniques to Relieve Stress, Stop Negative Spirals, Declutter Your Mind, and Focus on the Present
- The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life
8. Encourages Self-Compassion in Difficult Times
When life gets heavy, your inner voice can be your safe space.
Using gentle, compassionate self-talk helps you soothe yourself instead of spiraling, reinforcing emotional safety and healing.
9. Strengthens Mind-Body Connection
Your thoughts shape your reality — including your body’s response.
Positive self-talk impacts everything from posture and energy levels to hormone production and immune function. It’s not magic, it’s neuroscience.
Can You Train Yourself to Use Positive Self-Talk?
Absolutely. Like any habit, self-talk can be learned and strengthened. The key is consistency and conscious practice. Here’s how to get started:
4 Practical Strategies to Improve Your Self-Talk
1. Become Aware of Your Inner Voice
You can’t change what you don’t notice.
Start by tuning in. What do you say to yourself during stressful moments? When you look in the mirror? After making a mistake?
2. Replace Negative Patterns
Once you identify the toxic loops, challenge them.
For example:
“I always mess things up” → “I’m still learning, and that’s okay.”
Use affirmations, journaling, and visualization to retrain your inner dialogue.
3. Regulate Emotions with Mindful Self-Talk
When emotions run high:
- Name the feeling
- Breathe through it
- Reframe it with compassion
- Focus on the solution, not the drama
Instead of: “I can’t handle this” → Try: “This is hard, but I’m capable of figuring it out.”
4. Make It a Daily Practice
Self-talk is like a muscle. The more you use it intentionally, the stronger it gets.
Try these mini self-talk exercises:
- Morning Affirmations: “Today, I choose peace and power.”
- Mirror Pep Talks: Look yourself in the eye and speak encouragement aloud.
- Journaling Prompts: “What do I need to hear today?”
- Mental Rehearsal: Visualize yourself succeeding — narrate it with confidence.
Here’s a quick guide: 13 Sunshine Mindset Habits to Brighten Your Mood, Energy, and Life
You Are What You Tell Yourself
Your inner voice is always listening — and believing.
Whether it lifts you or holds you back depends entirely on what you choose to say.
Start small. Talk to yourself like you would a best friend — with encouragement, honesty, and compassion. With time, you’ll notice your self-talk shifting your mindset, your mood, and your entire life trajectory.
So go ahead. Speak kindly, dream big, and keep talking your way into the life you deserve.
Frequently Asked Questions
1. Is it weird to talk to yourself out loud?
Not at all! Talking out loud can improve focus, problem-solving, and task completion. It’s a sign of strong cognitive function, not strangeness.
2. What if I have a negative inner voice?
You’re not alone — most of us do. The first step is awareness. Begin challenging those thoughts and replacing them with positive alternatives, one sentence at a time.
3. Can self-talk help with mental health?
Yes. Positive self-talk supports emotional regulation, builds self-esteem, and can reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression. It’s a powerful tool for mental wellness.




21 comments
Aditi Jain
Love your post. something worth remembering
Lani
Hi Aditi, Thank you so much for your support. Kindly check out my other posts for more inspiration.
Emily
Great article, and fantastic reminder to think about the messages we’re telling ourselves during the day. The way you talk to yourself can make a big difference in your self-perception.
Lani
You’re absolutely right, Emily. Sometimes, we can get carried away especially when our emotions are in play. But we need to be mindful because the words we say to ourselves play a huge impact on our lives.
Vy
Amazing post. We really need to be mindful of that voice in our head because it can be our best friend or our greatest enemy.
Dori
A great reminder to be self-aware and kind to ourselves ?
Lani
HI Dori,
I totally agree with you. Sometimes we just really need to be reminded. If you enjoyed this post check out my other inspiring posts. I’m Looking forward to hearing more from you soon.
Fransic verso
I love self-talk and reading this was interesting. I also learned some new things as well about it. Thank you for sharing!
Lani
Hi Fransic,
I’m glad you enjoyed reading this article and I’m happy you got some tips too. Hope it works for you.
Sheenia
Great post! I wrote an article about the benefits of positive self talk also. So important.
Lani
Hi Sheenia,
Thanks for your comment. Indeed positive self-talk is important, I will check your article for further info.
Francesca
I truly enjoyed reading this article! I didn’t even know self-talk was a thing until I realised the negative way I used to talk to myself. I have learned (and am still learning) to be more conscious of what I’m saying to myself and change my internal dialogue. Thanks for the helpful advice!
Lani
Hi Francesca,
I’m glad you enjoyed this article and got some tips along the way. As they say, practice makes perfect- so practice taking control!
Heather Cunningham
Thank you. i have always considered myself my own best counsel. This article makes a lot of sense!
Lani
Hi Heather,
That is a nice way to say it indeed we all should be our own best counsel.
Mayra
The key factor you mention here is self-awareness.
Being conscious of the positive (or negative) messages you’re saying to yourself out loud and being able to pivot if you’re not building yourself up.
Thanks for your article
Lani
Hi Mayra,
You summed it all up. Thanks for the comment.
Gabby
I live these tips! Having a positive mindset is the key to a happy life!
Lani
Hi Gabby,
Thanks for the comment. I hope the tips work in your favor.
Roberta
Love your post
LaniAuthor
Thanks Roberta, I’m glad you enjoyed this post- hope it helps!