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If you are not in control of the success in your life: Its time to be Accountable

Accountability is the quality or state of being accountable. Self-accountability or Personal accountability means that you are responsible for your choices and actions. It means you are the first and last line of defense for your integrity and Self-discipline.

When you’re personally accountable, you take ownership of situations that you’re involved in. You take responsibility for what happens whether good or bad. You don’t blame others, justify, rationalize and make excuses. You rise above if things go wrong and you do your best to make things right.

But more than just following through, accountability also means admitting mistakes or owning up to your shortcomings. Whether those promises were made to yourself or to others, accountability for them remains equally important.  

Determine your Locus of Control

Locus of control is a psychological concept that refers to how strongly people believe they have control over the situations and experiences that affect their lives. In more than 50 yrs of research, Psychologists have determined that your locus of control is the determining factor of your happiness or unhappiness in life. Here’s why:

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Internal Locus of Control– A person with an internal locus of control is a person who feels that he is in complete control of his life. This person feels strong confident and powerful and generally optimistic. He feels very much in charge of his or her destiny.

External Locus of Control– A person with an external locus of control is a person who feels controlled by external forces- like their boss, marriage, finances, childhood problems, and current situation. They are those that feel out of control and as a result feel angry, negative, hostile, and disempowered.

How much of your success in life would you say is up to you?

If your mindset is conditioned to believe that you’re at least 80% responsible for your success and that 20% depends on unforeseeable forces then you’ll likely be successful.  However, If you blame your problems and failures—big or small, personal or professional, on bad luck or on other people, then you may be set to fail.

The good news is that accountability is not just a mindset, it’s also a skill-set, something that is learnable. And why do you even need to know this? Well, because being accountable has its benefits.

Benefits of Self-Accountability

  • You’re less anxious or stressed because you are in control and have a plan in place
  • You are confident because the thoughts that govern your choices, actions, and behaviors towards outside conditions are stable
  • Your productivity will improve thanks to better time management skills
  • You can achieve life balance because you can better determine what is important and not important to you
  • You will have a better grasp of your long-term goals because you can hold yourself accountable
  • Your personal and professional interactions will be more positive
  • You will live a healthy, happy lifestyle because you are responsible for your overall health
Do you have personal accountability.

How to Be More Accountable

Personal accountability isn’t a trait that people are born with, it’s a way of living that you can learn.

Strategies for Accountability

  1. You are Responsible– Responsibility is a choice, a decision to take control of yourself and your life. You believe that success or failure is up to you.
  2. Recognize your power. We all have the innate capability to be 100% responsible. Yet, most of us don’t realize or are afraid to admit that we alone have the power to make changes. Sure, you can give that power away, but that is a conscious choice; it doesn’t happen without your permission.
  3. Develop your own strategy– You are responsible for the personal strategic planning of your own life and you are responsible for the overall management, setting goals, making plans, and performing to get results
  4. Accept what is- Whatever situation you are in right now is a result of the choices and actions you made years ago. If you are not happy with where you are right now, you can only take ownership moving forward. There is no time and space for regrets. What’s important now is what you do with what you have moving forward.
  5. Be honest– Success in life only comes when you’re completely honest with yourself, and with others. This means setting aside your pride, and admitting when you’ve made a mistake.
  6. Self-empowerment– By empowering yourself, you do the actions and take the risks to achieve the results you are aiming for. Rather than waiting for opportunities to fall from heaven, be bold— step outside the box, make things happen, and be answerable for the outcomes.
  7. Manage expectations–  The most direct route to self-empowerment is to be clear about expectations not only what you expect, but also what’s expected of you.
  8. Take back your time– Time is our most expensive commodity because we can’t buy it back. Use Time Wisely:
    • Learn to say NO to opportunities, requests, or tasks that do not serve your overall goal.
    • Get a firm grip on procrastination as it is a common way to avoid responsibility.
    • Do the things you need to do now— delays will only make things worst.
  9. Make Changes– Accountability can open up powerful learning opportunities. When something does not go as planned, ask for feedback. Problems are obstacles to solve and to learn from. Take the lesson and look for ways to do things differently in the future.
  10. Take inventory– Reflect on your day, too. spend some time at least once a day or once a week to ask yourself some powerful questions relating to your daily life, your goals, the lessons learned, and the changes you plan to make.

Unlike responsibility (the “before”) and self-empowerment (the “during”), Personal accountability is the “after”. It’s a willingness to answer for the outcomes of your choices, actions, and behaviors. Take control, Be accountable and design a life you have always wanted to live.

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  • Trina July 22, 2021 at 9:36 am

    Well written and thoughtful blog. IT has given me a lot to think about and how to better myself going forward! Thanks!

    • Lani July 22, 2021 at 10:04 pm

      Hi Trina,

      Thanks for your wonderful comment. I’m glad it got you thinking. I hope you are able to make the changes you need and live the life of your dreams. If you enjoyed this post check out my other inspiring posts. I’m Looking forward to hearing more from you soon.

  • Sarah July 22, 2021 at 9:46 am

    You are completely accurate with the points about responsibility and how I’m in the position in in now because of choices and actions I previously made. That was something I needed to hear today, asking with the motivation that I can make necessary changes.

    • Lani July 22, 2021 at 9:59 pm

      Hi Sarah,

      I feel the same way you do and I’m trying hard to make sure I’m not going to be in the same place a year from now. That’s why I’m trying to be accountable for my life. I’m glad you enjoyed this post and got what you needed out of it. If you have stories of progress, successes, and lessons learned, I would love to hear them! At the end of the day, we can all work together to be better.

  • Samantha July 22, 2021 at 11:32 am

    These are great reminders! I pinned this post, I needed to see it after the few weeks I’ve had. I really need to start holding myself accountable and more self-empowerment is a must.

    • Lani July 22, 2021 at 9:55 pm

      Hi Samantha,

      I’m glad you enjoyed this post and thanks for the support. Like you, I am also on this journey of self-accountability. If you have stories of progress, successes, and lessons learned, please comment. At the end of the day, we can all work together to be better.

  • Jimmy Clare July 22, 2021 at 3:22 pm

    I totally agree with this we all need to be in control of our sucess

    • Lani July 22, 2021 at 9:52 pm

      Hi Jimmy,

      Thanks for your wonderful comment. Indeed everything is in our control. If you have stories to tell or enjoyed this post check out my other inspiring posts. I’m Looking forward to hearing more from you.

  • Amanda July 22, 2021 at 10:06 pm

    Accountability is everything! It’s easy to blame everyone else for your own lack of success but the reality is that success and failure are up to you. I have found that low self-esteem can sometimes be tied up into accountability as well. If you don’t think that you’re worthy of success, it’s easier to blame a lack of success on anything but yourself. But once you stand up for yourself and realize your true value, the sky’s the limit! Great post – thanks so much for sharing!

    • Lani July 24, 2021 at 8:52 am

      Hi Amanda,

      Love your comment. I totally agree with you. I wrote this post because I wanted to correct myself so I’m glad it resonated with you. Thank you. Also, If you enjoyed this post check out my other inspiring posts. I’m Looking forward to hearing more from you soon.

  • Faith July 25, 2021 at 8:39 am

    I’ll definitely hold on to this article
    Thank you

  • Lenora August 12, 2021 at 7:29 am

    Well written post. Accountability is something that is so important. Blogging and losing weight has helped me stay accountable.

    • Lani August 12, 2021 at 8:39 am

      Hi Lenora,

      Thank you for your kind comment. I am on this journey of being “accountable/response-able” and taking control of my life, I’m glad you are on your own accountability journey too. If you enjoyed this post check out my other inspiring posts. I’m Looking forward to hearing more from you soon.

  • Emily August 15, 2021 at 10:19 am

    Such good points… this is one to come back to for sure.

    • Lani August 16, 2021 at 1:13 am

      Hi Emily,

      I’m glad you enjoyed this post. Please do come back and review when needed. Also, if you enjoyed this post check out my other inspiring posts. I’m Looking forward to hearing more from you soon.

  • Melissa August 15, 2021 at 12:13 pm

    Thank you for this great article. This is a great reminder of what to do to be accountable. You wrote a great article.

    • Lani August 16, 2021 at 1:12 am

      Hi Melissa,

      Thanks for the comment. I hope some aspects of this post will help you well into the future. If you enjoyed this post check out my other inspiring posts. I’m Looking forward to hearing more from you soon.

  • Ashok August 15, 2021 at 12:27 pm

    “Take back time,” “manage expectations,” and “accept what is” are all things I’m working on incorporating into my practice. Definitely asking myself more “What is the value of me doing X?” and weighing the pros and cons. Finding that this is resulting in a lot of better decisions.

    • Lani August 16, 2021 at 1:11 am

      Hi Ashok,

      We are in the same place. The important thing is we are trying to be better always.

  • Amanda @ Nomadic Duology August 15, 2021 at 6:18 pm

    Great article – the taking back your time reminder was much needed today as I have been procrastinating all week – time to get going and stop feeling guilty for letting myself get behind. Thanks!!

    • Lani August 16, 2021 at 1:09 am

      Hi Amanda,

      I’m glad this post found you at a time you needed it most. We all procrastinate from time to time the important thing is, we find the strength to keep on moving forward.

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